She said to me, “But he doesn’t tell me I’m pretty, he doesn’t compliment me anymore.” I said to her “He doesn’t need to tell you you’re pretty for you to feel pretty. You have to feel pretty all on your own. You can’t expect someone outside of you to provide your confidence and security in yourself. If you give them the power to make you feel good, you also give them the power to make you feel bad. Keep your power.”
Sometimes we search outside of ourselves when what we really need to do is look within. It doesn’t matter if a million people tell you what it is you think you want to hear, if you don’t feel it within then what they say doesn’t matter. And even more importantly… STOP looking outside of yourself for validation, and dig a little deeper within. You have everything you need. The answers are there. Your confidence is there. Your happiness is there. No one outside of you can make you feel anyway about yourself. If you feel insecure, inferior, or simply not good enough, it’s not because someone made you feel that way, it’s because you ALREADY felt that way. Often we like to blame everyone else and hold others responsible for the way we feel within. Reality is, that’s NOT their job. They owe you nothing. It’s not your significant other, friend, mother, father, child, brother, sister etc. place to make you feel good. If you place that kind of responsibility on someone, they will let you down every time because it’s not their job. And when they let you down (many times unintentionally) you say, I don’t like you, you’re not what I want, you need to change, you don’t love me… that’s quite a burden to place upon someone, don’t you think? Your happiness, confidence, security, and your life in general is solely your responsibility. It wasn’t he, she, or it that made you feel good within, they were merely a reflection of how you were already feeling. You can’t look to someone else to make you whole.
If you’re feeling a little empty on the inside, your next move shouldn’t be to jump into a relationship, or call someone up to curse them out for making you feel not so good about yourself. Solitude is invaluable at a time like this. Show a little compassion towards yourself. Be patient and be willing to dig a little deeper within. You have plenty to be happy about, and you’re more in love and confident about your self than you know.